How did you two meet?
We’re an internet couple! We met on OkCupid about five years ago.
Who proposed and how did it happen?
The Proposal, Part One / Lysee: Michael and I have a tradition of going to Beacon, NY every year for our anniversary and staying at the Roundhouse. Beacon is a beautiful small town about 2 hours north of the city along the Hudson River. The Metro-North lets you off at the edge of town and you walk through Main Street about half a mile to get to the Roundhouse hotel - an incredible former textile mill that sits on a waterfall. Along the way, we stop at our favorite record store, vintage shop and chocolate shop. Michael had called the hotel in advance and got us upgraded to a room that overlooks the waterfall. We had a dinner reservation a couple hours later in the hotel restaurant. We decided to lounge in the room before dinner and I turned the TV on and landed on the movie Inception. I was pretty lost in the movie, but noticed Michael kept getting up to look out the window. After an hour or so, Michael suggested we go take a walk. But at this point, I really wanted to see how the movie ended. (Truth be told - I had seen it before…) Once the movie ended, we got dressed for dinner and decided to take a walk before our reservation. We ended up on a bench by the waterfall watching a wedding take place across the water. As many of you may know, I am obsessed with wedding food, specifically appetizers. I decided to look up the suggested wedding menu for The Roundhouse hotel. I proceeded to read off every single appetizer offering in detail.. there were about 30 options! Michael is sitting next to me, not nearly as excited by wedding hor d’oeuvres as I am, and proceeds to reach into his jacket. I thought he was kidding and slapped his hand away, going back to reading about a roasted tomato soup shooter and fresh ricotta with local honey drizzle….
The Proposal, Part One / Michael: We went to the Roundhouse the past two summers at the same time to celebrate our anniversary of dating, so there was nothing out of the ordinary about me planning a weekend getaway upstate in mid June. The Roundhouse is a beautiful hotel in a repurposed textile mill in the quaint town of Beacon NY. As always, we walked from the train station through town to the far end of Main St. where the hotel is located. It’s always a little tiring, which is why Lysee must have insisted on laying on the comfortable hotel bed watching Inception. I looked out the window across the river to the bench where I was planning to propose once I was able to convince my potential fiancé to go for a walk, or Inception (run time of 2 hours and 28 mins) ended. I cringed a little each time someone approached the proposal site and glanced at the bench. If the A/C hadn’t been cranking I would probably be drenched in sweat. Finally Inception ended and it was out the door. I had gone into the bathroom during a particularly dramatic moment of the movie and moved the ring box from my weekender bag to the pocket of my denim jacket - the package was in place.
What was the overall vibe you were trying to achieve with your wedding?
I definitely found myself using the term ‘minimal’ in a lot of my wedding search terms. I didn’t want anything too grandiose or over-the-top. I wanted it to feel like ‘us’.
If you could relive one moment from the wedding, what would it be?
Our vows and first dance felt incredibly intimate, especially since we were being watched by 100+ people. Yet somehow it felt like only Michael and I were in the room. When I think back on the wedding, exchanging vows and our first dance really stand out in my mind. We listened to our first dance song so many times and practiced swaying in our kitchen, but when it actually happened it felt so, so magical.
First Dance Song:
What other music did you choose for your day?
Getting Ready Song/Playlist: Kacey Musgraves - Golden Hour
Processional Song: Jose Gonzales - Heartbeats
Recessional Song: Talking Heads - This Must Be the Place
Final Song of the Night: Van Morrison - Wild Night
Two part question: What was the most important part of your wedding party, and what did you decide to let go, pending budget restraints, lack of time?
Music was very important to us. I work in the music industry, so it was important that our music fit our taste. We’ve been to so many weddings that had a ‘top 40’ playlist and that’s just not our style. We loved working with our DJ, James, to set up the playlist. He took our song list and then added in some tunes that perfectly fit the vibe. We got a ton of compliments and the dance floor was packed all night.
I’m not sure we ‘let go’ of anything - any roadblocks we encountered, we just found another way to make it work.
Your favorite picture from the wedding:
Are there any traditions you upheld or gave a special twist to? And/or were there any traditions you said NO WAY to?
It was important for Michael and I to bring in an officiant that knew us - we’re both non-religious and we wanted the ceremony to feel personal and not too ‘stiff.’ We brought in my cousin, Chris, who we’ve spent several summers with up in Maine. He was honestly the perfect person for the job and the tone was exactly what we wanted. It was personal and lighthearted.
Was there anything that came up during the wedding planning process that you didn’t expect?
For some reason, I was surprised by the amount of paper goods. In my head I had only accounted for invites and Save the Dates and had fully forgotten to account for all the other things: menus, escort cards, seating chart, cocktail menus, etc. My friend, Liz, is an incredible graphic designer and she helped me design everything.
What advice would you give to someone starting the planning process?
It really does not need to be stressful. There is zero reason to bombard yourself with countless options and decisions. When you find something you like, trust your gut and stick with it. If you taste a cake and it’s delicious - go with it! - you don’t need to taste a dozen more cakes from different vendors and make your life difficult. Just go with what feels right and don’t overthink it.
What advice would you give to someone in their first year of marriage?
An open line of communication is #1 - being able to communicate and talk through everything and anything.
What does your marriage look like in 20 years?
I hope to be in the same neighborhood - likely in a bigger apartment with a bigger family!
Venue: The Green Building
Dress: Lovely Bride
Make Up: Jenn Blumm
Hair: Rachael at Fox & Jane
Shoes: Christian Louboutin
Suits: The Black Tux
DJ: James Mulry
Photographer: Alex Liebman at AJL Studio
Florist: Megan Moriarty at MKM Design
Cake: Wild Flour
Ice Cream: Van Leeuwen
Hotel: Brooklyn Bridge One Hotel
Bachelorette Spa Day: City Well
Ring (Hers): Vrai & Oro
Ring (His): Holden
Skincare: Rescue Spa
Mani + Pedi: Hortus Works
Rehearsal Dinner: Frankie’s 457